Posted by crushedout on March 19, 2004, at 14:11:28
In reply to Re: crash after a great week » crushedout, posted by Dinah on March 19, 2004, at 10:48:47
That's really interesting, Dinah. Thanks for sharing it. I'm glad to know my therapist is not the only one who has such reactions and you have a good relationship with your T so it does not necessarily mean she's a jerk, which is not what I think (but sometimes I worry about it).So, how did you get your T to get past it? Or do you know?
I actually don't think I act needy, either, outside of therapy. I know that I used to be very clingy in relationships but this was many years ago and I've since learned to be quite independent. Actually, I only cling when someone pulls away fiercely. I don't think I choose people who are particularly scared off by neediness, no, but that's a good question. Maybe I do.
I agree with you that the normal reaction when someone pulls away is to cling more, and of course the normal reaction to clinging more is to pull away more. So hopefully I can talk about this with my T and she can help us break that cycle. I'm afraid to cling now because I don't want her to pull away, but I kind of need to cling and have her not pull away. Does that make sense?
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