Posted by pegasus on March 16, 2004, at 17:06:26
In reply to Transference again?, posted by Pandabear on March 16, 2004, at 16:27:25
I agree with terrics. Also, I think it's easy to talk about transference in a way that seems invalidating of your emotions. Is that how you're feeling about what your T said? If not, sorry for misinterpreting.
Just because it might be transference doesn't mean that you aren't also feeling all of those feelings. It's just a possible explanation for why some things may hit you as hard as they do. If you're feeling invalidated, that seems like a good thing to talk to your T about.
Not being involved in your situation, I don't think it's possible to say from the outside whether what you're experiencing is transference. But it sounds like it could be. I guess, what I would suggest is asking yourself whether anything in your past would explain why you would react in a stubborn way to being asked to do homework (or maybe that particular homework). If the feeling seems familiar, then maybe you're putting the experience in the same category as something else you've experienced in the past. You did mention feeling that she was like your parents, telling you to do something. That could be a transferrence. I.e., you might be tranferring a reaction that you had to your parents demands onto your relationship with your T. Is that what it feels like? When it comes down to it, you're the only one who can really say whether it's a transference, IMHO.
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