Posted by naiad on December 29, 2003, at 8:51:44
In reply to annoying comments , posted by Joslynn on December 29, 2003, at 8:28:14
I don't give advice but I can tell you from my experience that bringing up old things is often confusing because the context is lost or muddled. I am working on knowing when I am offended because I almost always blame myself at first. I think I must have misunderstood. Then, when I reflect and start feeling rotten, I realize that, yes, I was hurt, angry, frustrated or whatever. So it seems as if I am always confronting the situation later and not when the offense occurred. I wonder if this is just an innate processing style or if I have a hard time discerning my feelings. Probably some of both.
So thanks for asking the question. Being assertive takes practice and a therapist is a perfect person to practice on. Good luck!
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