Posted by amy_oz on November 20, 2003, at 20:48:38
In reply to Re: girls and bullying (quite long) » amy_oz, posted by Poet on November 18, 2003, at 9:43:38
thank you for your kind words.
I own a book about girls and bullying called "odd girl out". I think thats what its called when I find out for sure, I'll add the link to amazon. When I read it I just started crying and crying.
I guess therapists are just starting to create strategies for dealing with PTSD from bullying.I've done a bit of work with CBT and it helps. But because it only works on the thinking level, and I'm a very feeling person, it may not be the be all and end all.
i decided on a new strategy last night. TO use CBT and adapt the straegies from it to my thoughts and feelings and behaviour.
Eg for a lack of confidence and believing that people don't like me.
I will ask myself what is the evidence for this?
What would a confident person think in this situation?
How would a confident person feel in this situation?
How would a confident person act in this situation?
I'll then try and adjust everything accordingly. I realise that this isn't easy and will take lots of practice. I'm sure I'll still have some down feelings in these situations...so I'll self soothe the feelings I'm still having. Exercise for frustration, wine and dine myself etc.I was actually quite excited when I came up with this technique and its nice to be excited about something. I'll let you know how its going.
Please let me know what works and I'll pass ideas back through too.thank you
Amy
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