Posted by TexasChic on November 20, 2003, at 12:17:32
From the research I've done, I believe my Mom has Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder. This is entirely different from regular OCD. With this disorder, the person believes they're right and everyone else is wrong. Nothing I do is ever good enough for my Mom. She constantly criticizes me and puts me down, and since she's obsessed with morality she thinks I'm a degenerate. I had been caring for my Grandmother in her home for 5 years when my Mom lost yet another job due to her inability to get along with other people she decided to move in with us (didn't ask, just decided). Of course immediately she started taking over by rearranging everything in the house, and making it her space. She began taking over the care of my Grandmother and eventually changed history in her mind to reflect that she had to move in because I wasn't taking care of her properly. I should point out before she moved in she was always crying and talking about how guilty she felt that I giving up my life to care for her mother. The real problem started when she wouldn't stay out of my room. I have always paid rent so I put a lock on my door. This has driven her completely insane. She's now showing signs of becoming violent. One day I was laying on the bed and she pick up my 5 yr old nephew and threw him on my face. I had a slight black eye for days. She insists he squirmed out of her arms, but she was mad at me at the time, and I saw her do it. And just the other night she was angry with me so I went to my room. I heard alot of banging and noise and was actually afraid to come out and see what she was doing (my Grandmother wasn't home at the time). I finally came out later and found she had completely torn off the whole front of the cabinet in the bathroom. The wood was actually splintered. I was flabbergasted. Anyway, to make a long story short, the plan was for me to move out and Mom to move in within the next year or so and take over caring for my Grandmother, but Mom moved in ahead of schedule. So here I am all ready to get the heck out of there, but now I'm scared to leave her with my Grandmother because she's become so violent lately. Its always directed at me, but I don't know if that will change. She's obviously unstable. I just don't know what to do, or how to live with it in the mean time as I try to figure it out. Any advice would be appreciated. And sorry about the length. I just had to vent
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