Posted by Dinah on November 20, 2003, at 9:57:06
In reply to Re: I'm in love with my therapist, posted by naiad on November 19, 2003, at 23:11:36
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> My question is: how will transference benefit me? I certainly relate to your idea that it is the love I didn't get as a child. Is there anything else that might be helpful? Thanks again.
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Now I'm not at all sure of the answer to this question. I think experiencing transferences is completely natural. I think discussing them with your therapist is helpful, given that they exist. But I've long had my doubts that experiencing the sort of painful erotic transferences many of you describe is actually helpful.I do understand that experiencing the maternal transference I feel is helpful as it helps my therapist's stated goal of providing a corrective emotional experience and (sort of) reparenting. I understand how it's helpful to me because it makes me feel more confident to go out in the world, knowing that my therapist is there to help me if the world is too overwhelming. Sort of that stage of child development where the child explores but looks back to make sure mommy's there and checks out her expression to make sure the world's ok.
But some of these erotic transferences sound just painful. Given that sharing anything with our therapists is helpful, is there any other way an erotic transference contributes to therapy?
Transference experts anyone?
poster:Dinah
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