Posted by Dinah on October 22, 2003, at 18:32:31
In reply to Re: Q for Dr. Bob-how have you coped with transference, posted by kitkat33 on October 22, 2003, at 13:12:33
Used that way, I would hate the word too. When I was not on good terms with my therapist once, I went to a psychiatrist and he said to go back to my therapist because all my negative feelings were transference. Hmmmph!!!! I went back to my therapist and told him that, and told him that that was bull. I had legitimate reasons to be angry with him.
And to his everlasting credit my therapist, though enormously amused by my indignation, agreed with me that not all feelings a client feels for a therapist are transference, that there were two people in the room who could make errors, and he admitted his part in our disagreement.
And I realized that even though I was mad at him (and I still think for good reason, not transference) that he was a heck of a lot better than a lot of what was out there, and I stayed and we worked things out. It was quite therapeutic in the long run. But he still laughs when he mentions transference. :)
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