Posted by deirdrehbrt on October 17, 2003, at 21:24:27
In reply to Re: Is there value in telling the details?, posted by DaisyM on October 15, 2003, at 21:51:57
Deal.
I think that if you're hanging around here, we'll run into each other enough to keep it working.
It's so hard, isn't it, to admit that you need others to tell you that you are good, and worthwhile? It's difficult to find, as an adult, that you really do need what you were denied as a child. I think that it might be difficult for quite a few people, but for tthose of us who didn't get it, we feel that admitting that we need the good messages unmasks the fact that we never had them in the first place. Maybe we think that we aren't only saying something bad about ourselves, but about those whom we still care about.
The part that matters is that we don't have those good messages about ourselves. We need them though, If they come from post-its saying "I'm beautiful" near the mirror, "I'm OK the way I am" near the scale, "My Cat, Dog, etc. depends on and loves me" near the food. Hanging things that my children make for me in conspicuous places. It's all good.
So take care hon, You are a very special person, and you deserve to be treated well, by you, as well as those around you.
Dee.
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