Posted by fallsfall on October 17, 2003, at 6:40:04
In reply to Re: How Do Start/Thanks Everyone, posted by DaisyM on October 16, 2003, at 11:24:45
I spend the 25 minute drive to his office with the radio off trying to figure out how I'm going to answer "so, how are you?". Even after that substantial contemplation, I often sit there, look out the window and say "uh,.... um..... well...". It is hard every time.
He doesn't want me to be "scripted", but it is hard to just jump in. I try to give him a quick idea of how I will react in the session ("My daughter kept me up till after midnight the last two nights because she had an English project due, so I'm exhausted. And our last session was... was... um... really... hard" (that was planned to be "Our last session was hell", but it didn't quite make it).
It does help to get little things out of the way (scheduling or insurance or one sentance updates on things I got done). Once words are in the air, the hard words don't get so lonely.
You could always say "I never know what to say at the beginning" at which point they say "What do you want to say at the beginning" - sooo helpful!
You are not the only one. In fact, does anyone find it easy?
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