Posted by Penny on October 16, 2003, at 10:36:51
In reply to Sometimes I hate therapy, posted by HannahW on October 15, 2003, at 21:10:28
Sorry to hear about that experience with the sex therapist - but bravo to you for going! It sucks that she was so condescending. And to use the term 'cure' - I think some things can be cured, but those are things that are diagnosable by a blood test or x-ray, not sexual problems or mental problems, etc. Those things can be treated and symptoms can improve...just my opinion.
If she continues to talk down to you, perhaps you should seek another opinion. But, if it were me, I would definitely say something to her, regardless. I think therapists appreciate forwardness: "I just wanted to say that I feel like you're talking down to me, and I would appreciate it if you wouldn't. Thank you."
And if she doesn't respond to that in a helpful manner, then you have every right to find someone else to help you. I'm sure your individual therapist would agree with that!
As for becoming friends with your individual therapist...you said: "She just doesn't like me enough to want to." and I KNOW you know that's not true. She's being a professional, observing and respecting boundaries, and that's what you probably need. I say 'probably' b/c I'm not you, so I can't say for sure. But she is your therapist/pdoc, and it would be wrong (read: unethical) for her to act in any other manner. Plus, you would lose a good therapist, then have to find another, and then what if you ended up feeling the same way about that one?
Try to be thankful that you have a therapist you think so highly of. As you've seen, everyone is not so fortunate with their therapists.
P
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