Posted by fallsfall on October 15, 2003, at 15:47:25
In reply to Group therapy veterans? Help!, posted by Tabitha on October 14, 2003, at 23:56:35
Hmmm, sounds like transference to me (but then again, everything sounds like transference to me these days). When you can see that rationally the way you feel doesn't make much sense, then you are bringing something into the environment. As painful as it is, if you can learn from it, it will be worth it. Can you spend some of your individual time trying to process this? Make sure you talk with your therapist about how you feel in group. I thought that I was when I was in group, but years later she claimed that she didn't know I was miserable. So try to be really specific. It should help that you have the same therapist for that.
Remember that you are still very new to the group thing. It will take a little getting used to. Be patient.
And the woman complaining she didn't get to talk, that might be because she isn't assertive enough, rather than that you are a hog.
One nice thing about Group is that if you do end up doing something that annoys people is that the job of the group is to talk about that. So even if you do something "wrong" you are doing something right. And they should be willing to see you learn and change and forgive whatever you do that is "bad".
So give it a little time.
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