Posted by Adia on October 9, 2003, at 12:35:38
In reply to Not bonding with new CBT therapist, posted by NikkiT2 on October 9, 2003, at 12:13:20
Hi Nikki,
I am sorry you are feeling that you are not getting anywhere with your new therapist..
Was she supposed to work with you temporarily and Maggie would return after having the baby? From your post I understand that she's not coming back, so I think that you should really talk to your new therapist and get an understanding of the work she wants to do with you and explain to her your needs too...
Have you talked to your new therapist and explained to her how you're feeling or what you expect from your sessions?
I think that I would try to tell her how I am feeling and how I feel that so far there's something lacking or I am not feeling well..?
Do you feel that seeing her once a month is enough for you?
I would try to talk to her honestly about how I am feeling and what my needs are at the moment and what I feel I am needing...and see how she reacts to that...when are you seeing her next?
Maybe she thinks that this is helping you and she doesn't know how you are truly feeling...I think it is important that you tell her how you are feeling...and what you feel your needs are.
Maybe you need to see her more often to be able to build some trust with her?hope this helps a tiny bit, I just wanted to reach out to you :o)
sending you lots of support,
take gentle care of yourself,
Adia.
> Augist 2002 I started weekly CBT session with a clinical psychologist, Maggie. Maggie was wonderful, we bonded brilliantly and I enjoyed my session with her, as well as the CBT work we did together working fantastically. When I felt bad I could tell her why, and she always helped me sort things out when they felt bad.
> Anyway, Maggie left in May to have a baby, and I was re-assigned to Lorna. Lorna decided we only needed to see each other monthly, so I have seen her 3 times in total so far. I just don't feel anything toward her what so ever.. I find her dull, and she sticks really rigidly to the CBT guide book, and we never stray from just working on self esteem using CBT. I don't feel I actually get any support from her, and I'm not getting anything from my sessions anymore. Infact I dread them.
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> I'm in the UK so simply changing therapists isn't an option for me. I'm just really lost at the moment.
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> Any great words of advice??!
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> Thanks
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> Nikki x
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