Posted by Medusa on October 8, 2003, at 15:43:25
In reply to Re: Clear goals in therapy » fallsfall, posted by Penny on October 2, 2003, at 8:59:27
> I have a problem with goals - one of my main goals is what it has always been, which is to deal with my fear of men/issues with men, and we were starting to get into that, but, just like with my former therapist, I started sliding downhill so she said we'd put that on the back burner until I'm feeling better.
>Hey Penny - is there any chance that there's a causal relationship with your feeling worse about the same time you started working on your men issues, and not just a correlation?
I was really, really helped with "men issues" in a short-term therapy I did, that ironically focused a lot on my mother (and her relationship to her father). I think there's a place for talk therapy, but I also feel like I wasted soooooo much time and lots of money on vague sessions. If you could find a systemic therapist, it might be worth adding that to your cocktail. It's usually just a few sessions - the systemic approach goes for hard, fast, painful fixes. I disagree with their idea that things are "fixed", but ... I got results, and my depression etc etc changed in quality as a result of that therapy. I know I sound really evangelical about this ... like I'm selling you some weird herbs I swear will make you look like a movie star. Maybe I should post separately about systemic short-term therapy.
I'm glad you were able to hash this out a bit with your therapist ... as for DBT stuff, would you be interested in doing some of that on-line? I think Dinah is interested, and I certainly am ... I just don't know how we could structure posting about that. Again, vagueness conquers many good intentions ...
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