Posted by Rigby on October 3, 2003, at 23:18:26
In reply to Re: Flowers In Office/More/Opinions Needed, posted by HannahW on October 3, 2003, at 14:05:59
Hi Hannah,
Thank you for your thoughts. "Got lost" are the words she used back in July when referring to her forgetting her boundaries with me. She said she's made a lot of "exceptions" for me (one was reducing my rate by 30%) and I guess another was her accepting a book and a plant I gave to her. She has also admitted that I am special to her and she feels closer to me than any of her other clients. She says that we are alot "alike" and in some cases that can be a problem--that we connect too well. Since then the boundaries seem to have been okay but then this latest thing made me feel that she's "getting lost" again.
> What does it mean to "get lost" with you? That she forgot her role as therapist and thought of herself as something else? I'm not catching the meaning of the phrase. And how long ago was her declaration? Have there been other boundary crossings since then?I feel like she was mind-f-cking me a bit on this.
> The flowers do seem very odd. If she wanted them right smack in the middle so she could be reminded of them, that's inappropriate because she's not fully paying attention to you. If she wanted them there in the middle either so you would ask her about them, or so you would know that somebody thought she was special enough to send her flowers, that's also inappropriate. Weird. You should ask her about it. It's very "grammar school" to draw attention to something and then say you can't talk about it.It's been two weeks--I see her weekly. So we'll see what's up next week.
> I wouldn't read too much into the sweater just yet, unless she wore it twice in one week. If it shows up again, I'd get suspicious. It'sMy only guess is that she knows there's some transference and attraction there and she enjoys it--consciously or not.
> Do you have other reasons to think she might be trying to entice you?
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