Posted by Dinah on October 24, 2002, at 12:06:40
As much as I fear and dislike the anger of others, it is my own anger that terrifies me the most. I'm okay with the intellectual sort of anger, but the visceral sort scares me to death. If I am angry with someone, I get so afraid that I have to undo it or channel it towards myself.
My therapist is trying to get me to work on this - to try to recognize the roots of the fear and to try to experience feeling angry with him. But I just can't do it. It is just too frightening for me.
It's not that I'm afraid I'll hurt anyone so much as I'm afraid a relationship cannot survive anger. At least not intact. And all the reassurance in the world doesn't help that terror.
poster:Dinah
thread:1385
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