Posted by zenhussy on December 25, 2003, at 3:01:58
In reply to Re: It does not grow easier each year...., posted by dandelion on December 23, 2003, at 13:43:37
dandelion,
your post is so moving. I want to comment on it but just your screen name alone in this thread gave me days of pause. Dandelion was one of my nicknames that my father called me when I was a baby and very young.
Pow. Over twenty years later and it still goes right to the heart and the sense of loss and heaviness of unresolved grief.
I'm glad you have been able to find a way to move through this hellish grief. To see the good things and remember the humour. That is wisdom. You show true wisdom there dandelion.
I'm sorry your post was missed before. The closing off you speak of is exactly what I would feel whenever anyone around me spoke of my father after his death.
You really had a connection to your father and what a sad way to have to say goodbye. You were blessed to have so many years on this planet with him. And it is so okay to cry along with the good memories.
Screw the coworkers and friends who wouldn't know grief if it struck them with a 2x4! Phooey on them.
I will have a cup of raspberry tea tonight when I return home in honour of your father. I'd go so far as to say I'd read too but with this brain right now that would be pushing it.
take care and thank you for your post (again since it slid under the radar the first time)
zh
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