Posted by rayww on July 17, 2008, at 21:14:39
In reply to Sex, Faith, Divorce...Anyone Relate?, posted by sassyfrancesca on July 15, 2008, at 10:28:04
It takes 5 years to recover from loss. Don't let yourself become connected unless you are real sure of what you are doing. Be smart. At any age, if you connect to someone you shouldn't, it can take a long time to recover from the loss, and it isn't something you should want to put yourself through, unless you don't mind losing another five years too.
When I say recover from loss, I simply mean to be able to live your life without "him/sex" at your center, in every thought, or as your motivator for doing or being, even intruding into your prayers...taking the place of god.
Of course what do I know? I'm only 60. Never been divorced, never had an affair, but I did lose a father when I was young, and had a problem subconsciously trying to connect with father types. I wasted a lot of years trying to figure this out. I thought you could live life on both sides of the coin.....and you can, if you're prepared to suffer the consequences, which are deep and hard to bear. This is where I relate to what you were saying.
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