Posted by Cass on October 11, 2004, at 11:51:21
In reply to Re: 12 step programs » Cass, posted by JLx on October 11, 2004, at 9:12:29
I do see your pont now, JLx. Although at this point, I don't have any idea how not to give a victimizer power over me except to exclude the person from my life. That's where I'm at right now. There is really no one in my life who makes me miserable on a regular basis because I have ended my relationship with them.
You write, "What Al-Anon will gently teach is, 'You're here because you have a problem with so and so. You cannot make another person change. As long as your happiness depends on that other person changing, you have a problem. It's YOUR problem. The only person you can change is yourself. That's your way out of this chaos and unhappiness.'"
It seems like Al Anon is teaching something almost mystical, to be detached like a buddha. THAT is something I truly do not know how to do.
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