Posted by Meri-Tuuli on August 26, 2006, at 7:32:07
In reply to HA! I told you so! » Poet, posted by Racer on August 25, 2006, at 13:34:40
Yeah its like you've gotto believe it yourself before others will believe (and see it in) you.
Its like I had this roommate with sky high (actually inappropriate) self esteem. She was always going on about how great she was, how many men fancied her etc etc. But people believed her, it kind of influences your opionion of someone when they have really high/low self esteem, if that makes sense. And I believed her to begin with, and as I have low self esteem, I totally thought she was 'better' than me. But I got better grades than her, someone actually told me I was prettier than her and it took me totally by surprise! I was so used to thinking of her, like she did, if that makes sense.
Obviously, this is kind of at face value, because when you really got to know her (as only a roommate can!) you realised that she got terrible grades, spent ages making herself look nice in the mornings and flirted with every man going (and it probably helped that she was natural 34DD)
But to begin with, what a person really believes about themselves can really influence what other people think about you. At least at face value. Obviously once you get to know someone real well it doesn't really hold true, but still. Its quite a scary thought!
And probably quite applicable at job interviews.
Kind regards
Meri
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