Posted by finelinebob on August 20, 2006, at 0:15:48
In reply to Re: It's not that I ain't got no self esteem. » finelinebob, posted by Phillipa on August 19, 2006, at 15:18:56
> I don't get it but then I feel bad. I can't keep up with my husband and I feel very old and ugly. Love Phillipa
That's because you're trying to be rational. You said it yourself to Jost. He's 13 years younger than you. By the irrevocable laws of enfeeblementation, you are incapable of keeping up with him.
Stop making sense.
David Byrne of the Talking Heads was on Letterman a long, long time ago and David #2 asked David #1, "Stop Making Sense. What does it mean?" To which David #1 replied, "Well, it's very good advice."
I'd recommend taking some Landmark courses but they're just a kinder, gentler child of EST and in becoming so they lost the point. The point of EST was to get you to get "it". And after paying hundreds of dollars and spending a lot of time doing demeaning exercises, if you were diligent you DID eventually get "it". And what was "it"?
There is no "it".
Sounds pretty irrational. Especially if you paid the money and spent the time and diligently demeaned yourself. But if it took all of that to make you to realize there is no point in trying to get it because there is no it, then it was all worth it.
If you stop trying to get it, then you can spend your time on more useful, productive, enjoyable pursuits. Like figuring out what silence sounds like and how to spell it if you do. Or, for that matter, what is the sound of one hand clapping (you can use your husband's face to figure that one out). Or what did that bald kid mean when he said to Neo, "There is no spoon."
If you still don't get it, don't feel bad -- revel in it! You're heading in the right direction. If you are sick of sickness, then you cannot be sick.
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