Posted by finelinebob on August 16, 2006, at 21:19:43
In reply to Re: Loving Yourself So You Can Love Others (?), posted by AuntieMel on August 16, 2006, at 17:09:18
> Sounds like an infinite loop
> "In order for you to love others, they have to love you first."Not an infinite loop, but a feedback loop.
There was a time before you. Then you came along. Whenever I tell my mom I love her, she says, "Loved ya first!" And she's right. Dad was second. Don't know after that. Brothers and sisters, aunts and uncles and extended family and friends and the list goes on.
So, lots of loops. Even loops inside of loops. Some positive feedback, some negative, some changing directions, some going both ways at once. It's enough to make you dizzy -- well, quite frankly, for some people it does. But in general people manage all this pretty well.
There does come a time, tho, when you realize that you can start a new loop. And it doesn't require someone else being born. It could start with something as simple as sticking your hand out for a shake and saying, "Hi! I'm Bob."
But I wouldn't try that if your name's not Bob. I think it works best for Bobs, but I can't say that I know of any non-Bobs who have tried that approach and either failed or succeeded.
Had someone use that on me last Sunday. Except it was "Flo", not "Bob". And it worked quite well. We'll see where the feedback loop stands come this Sunday, perhaps.
> Who's on first?
Exactly!
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