Posted by Racer on August 12, 2006, at 2:16:32
In reply to Loving Yourself So You Can Love Others (?), posted by Poet on August 10, 2006, at 13:36:07
While the saying itself is kinda trite, the idea behind it makes sense. In my not nearly humble enough opinion.
Think of it in terms of "want" versus "need." I "want" a new sewing machine, but I have a sewing machine that works (well, mostly) so I don't "need" a new sewing machine. Therefore, I can go out shopping and find the right machine for me, which is kinda like love, right? (OK, if you don't sew, that may not make much sense ;-P ) But if my current machine died tomorrow, I'd "need" a new machine, and would probably grab the first one I saw that worked, right? And then I'd stay with it whether I loved it or not.
Similar with friends and lovers -- and even cats. Only when I can offer respect, acceptance, and affection to myself can I truly offer them to anyone else. If I don't love myself -- no matter how tenuous it may be at times -- I can't really love my cat, since it's more like need than want. Same with my other cat. ;-D OK, my husband, too... (And my friend, even if she bats for the other team.) I can offer love that's not tied up in need, if that makes sense.
If it doesn't make sense, my name is Inigo Montoya, and I'll be here all week...
Poet? You think I got some good judgement, even if I have fat thighs? Guess what? I judge you to be worthy -- no matter what you say. My only complaint about you so far -- other than living in a different time zone -- is that you apparently don't own a psychic mirror. If you did, you'd see someone pretty cool. Someone George Sanders would envy.
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