Posted by DAisym on September 8, 2007, at 23:10:42
In reply to Narcissitic son, posted by muffled on September 7, 2007, at 22:17:51
Have you had your son evaluated? There are some red flags here - doesn't like to be touched or held and never has. Calling his sister a poo-face certainly gets him attention, so I can see why he might do that. Try to let them work it out as much as possible, unless it gets physical. And don't forget to reward him for good behavior. Notice when he is nice to her.
Most 11 year olds do not want to participate in family activities much. They want to hang with dad, or their friends or entertain themselves. If he is doing this, no worries, as long as you keep an eye on who his friends are. If he is hanging around you, complaining about being bored, but turning down all attempts at entertainment, then I might try another tactic. I usually pull out the chore list when I'm getting this kind of behavior and it is amazing how quickly they find things to do.
Your inconsistent moods might have effected him but you did the best you could. Family therapy could be helpful or he might benefit from individual therapy. My son has seen a therapist since he was 11 for an anxiety disorder. I don't know what I'd do without him some weeks. Your therapist could probably recommend someone.
Kids are hard at this age. I think middle schoolers are way harder than high schoolers.
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