Posted by Dinah on December 15, 2005, at 20:52:38
In reply to Re: Is this still normal? Trigger?, posted by daisym on December 15, 2005, at 18:39:45
I guess that's sort of what I'm afraid of. He already tries to hide the activity, and I'm afraid if I'm too negative about it it won't get any better, I just won't know about it.
When he chooses to he's very good at verbalizing his feelings. He doesn't always choose to.
His father and I don't do anger terribly well. I might yell at the dogs or very occasionally blow up at my husband, but usually I'm super rational, and the more angry anyone else gets the more rational I get. His father doesn't do anger directly. If he's angry about one thing, he snaps and yells about other things. And he knows I'm not crazy about his Dad's expressions of anger (and neither is he). So I guess he definitely believes it's not ok to hurt others with your anger, so that leaves himself maybe.
He also expects a whole lot of himself and gets angry when he lets himself down.
I guess I should add that it doesn't appear that he bangs hard, nor does he hit himself hard. But I think he does it more than we know, and also in small ways like pinching himself.
If it's a problem, I'll make sure to discuss it with his therapist. I mentioned it in an email but talking would be better.
He's under a whole lot of stress, and his main coping skill is losing himself in video games. I'm sure glad his therapist is back in town. Maybe that will give him another outlet.
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