Posted by Lou Pilder on March 21, 2014, at 11:15:06
In reply to Re: strange goal, posted by Dr. Bob on January 25, 2014, at 0:26:56
> > I was startled that you seemed to think that I wanted to replicate my therapeutic relationship in discussions with you - that seemed to me to be a very inappropriate comment, and is not evenly remotely the case.
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> > Twinleaf
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> I didn't know, so I asked. Thanks for clarifying.
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> > I perhaps have not paid enough attention to what the civility guidelines here actually are.
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> > Twinleaf
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> > Perhaps the best way to prevent being blocked from posting is to beg Dr. Bob to be blocked and write grossly uncivil things.
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> > - Scott
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> You're welcome to try reverse psychology, but I see it as relatively straightforward. Pay attention to the guidelines!
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> I do realize that's easier said than done.
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> > The only thing that is truly unacceptable to me is that the civility rules are not applied equally. While I am punished for every little thing, others are able to say things ... and nothing happens.
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> > Twinleaf
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> 1. I wouldn't say nothing happens.
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> 2. Are you saying you'd like to join Lou and Adorable's club?
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> > You are just about the most reasonable, sober, deliberative, generous, and civil poster here
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> > - Scott
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> That's actually one reason I'm not showing her leniency. Her posts are uncivil (IMO) more often than most posters'.
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> > I was hoping that Dr. Bob could function as a shield to protect everyone equally. I don't know.
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> > - Scott
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> > Learning to "wear a shield" against abuse is of course something we must all do occasionally in our daily lives; it seems like a strange goal to have in a board devoted to mental health. A reasonable degree of moderation would allow a much better goal: the increasing development of mutual trust, understanding and compromise - a goal that leads to better mental health. The present goal seems to me to lead to excessive anxiety, watchfulness and suppressed anger - signs of persons who are coping with trauma. Why would one visit a mental health site for that?
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> > Twinleaf
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> I see having a refuge and being out in the world both as valuable goals. Even for persons coping with trauma. The focus at Babble has shifted from the former (when I functioned as a shield to protect everyone equally) to the latter.
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> Also, there isn't much sustained interest in a refuge now.
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> This has been a nice discussion, I hope I don't derail it by chiming in.
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> BobMr. Hsiung,
I just saw,[...Are you saying that you would like to join Lou and Adorable's club?...].
I am unsure as to what you are wanting to mean here and if you could post answers to the following, then I could have the opportunity to respond accordingly.
True or false:
A. I did not specify what kind of club it is, Lou, because by me not specifying, a subset of readers could think in a way to see you in a false light by thinking something about the club that defames you as being a member of the club.
Fill in:
B. I used the name {Adorable} wityhout specifying who that is because:________________(and who is that?)
Lou Pilder
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