Posted by Dinah on August 9, 2013, at 12:19:43
In reply to Re: please be civil » 10derheart » Twinleaf, posted by Dr. Bob on August 8, 2013, at 11:35:09
Cygnet is quite right, Dr. Bob. I've said worse to you, and not only the asterisks. I think consistency means a lot to me. You ought to PBC me.
I felt very hurt by your words and lashed out. I expect 10der and Twinleaf may have felt hurt as well. I think maybe we don't feel heard or respected. I would hate to see this all snowball.
The funny thing is that the people who are most angry now seem to be among the people who are most predisposed to feel positively towards you and the civility guidelines. Perhaps you could remember that those who stuck by you so loyally weren't in on your decision to change, and are confused and hurt by your decisions. I *think* that they are more likely to respond well to a frank and open discussion about what you intend for Babble, even if there is no agreement. You were heading in that direction for a while, it seemed, and it gave hope where perhaps no hope was warranted. That usually increases pain and thus anger.
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