Posted by Solstice on January 21, 2013, at 23:43:08
In reply to Re: Abuse of posters » Solstice, posted by SLS on January 21, 2013, at 2:04:52
> Hi Solstice.
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> > Scott - while I don't disagree with the OP's message, I want you to know that when you have intervened on my behalf in the past, it was a powerful experience... made me feel sturdier.. sucked the sting out of the abusive behavior coming toward me. So maybe it's not an either/or. Maybe it's both. One's not 'wrong' and the other 'right.' The OP's style can be very, very effective. But your heart-driven eloquent confrontations that feel protective to the poster being targeted are equally effective. At least they were for me.
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> > Solstice
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> I would like to extend to you my heart-felt appreciation for your affirmations of me. While I am sure that my "style" is derided by many, it is truly important to me to know that it is not universally so.
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> Thank you.
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> - Scott
>derided by many? Pro'ly closer to "some" or maybe even "a few."
Your 'style' of confronting abusive/bullying behavior tends to be mater-of-fact, balanced, often even gracious toward the offender. Your impatience shows only when the offender is persistently arrogant and escalates. With respect to silence vs sanding up and speaking.... what's the old Edmund Burke line? "All that's necessary for the forces of evil to win... is for enough good men to do nothing."
When those on the sidelines don't speak up, it gives bullies latitude... makes them think they have an approving audience. Silence has its place.. but so does speaking up.
Solstice
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