Posted by Solstice on February 27, 2012, at 19:13:26
In reply to Re:, posted by Dinah on February 27, 2012, at 8:13:40
> There are already rules in place, and I've described them. Admittedly a more active administrative presence, at times, would be welcome.
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> I think once matters start to get complicated, with violations on more than one side, it's harder for Dr. Bob to find the time to deal with it. That's just my observation based on seeing him come deal with minor matters while leaving an all out board war untouched.
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> I get it too. Or at least I did originally. After a while, the pendulum on the board starts to swing, and with it my sympathy.
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> I think any comparison to Nazis, any suggestion that one's actions on Babble could lead to death to millions of Jews, or any assertations that any complaints about any one person are the result of that person's ethnic origin (in the absence of any evidence that this is the case) is on the face of it uncivil and accusatory and should be dealt with under existing Babble rules.
But it is not (dealt with). It is repeatedly allowed to flourish. And all I can say with respect to my experience in coming to the med board absolutely desperate with concern about my child, is that the hijacking and the content of the hijacking had me in tears as I tried to pick through the posts to find the ones that applied to the subject of my thread.
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> But it also upsets me when people act together towards one poster. And I tend to lose any sympathy I had for the original cause when it continues too long or becomes spread over many threads. Particularly when it deals with behaviors Dr. Bob has already explicitly approved. And I don't think Dr. Bob is wrong.
I do not mean anyone harm. I didnt post my medication concern in order to disrupt anyone. I just needed help. And all the while that I was trying to get help, I was under siege. It should not be like that here.I don't think people here acted together toward one poster, as much as it was multiple people objecting to a particular behavior that at this time only one poster exhibits.. and exhibits on a frequent basis.I initially felt very alone.. like I was under siege while trying to get information about medications and bipolar that would help me navigate my daughters medical crisis. I used the notification buttons to no avail. I emailed Bob to no avail. And whats important to say here is that what helped me survive that situation were the people here.. well respected people.. who came to my aid.. who did what they could to stand with me.. which left me feeling surrounded by the warmth of friends.. which made me feel somewhat protected in the midst of what felt to me like an assault (the hijacking and its implications that I am probably killing my child or causing her life-ruination).
And I want to say that Scott is absolutely right. These things should be dealt with by Bob. But he doesnt. It requires tremendous effort on the part of Babblers to exert enough social pressure to contain disruptive behavior. And I just cant tell you how grateful I am that some people here invested their time and energy into standing with me as I tried to keep my head above water.. even at the cost of putting themselves at risk for being considered 'uncivil' in their efforts to call attention to the escalation of behavior that clearly violated existing rules.
My deeply felt gratitude to all of those who cared..
Solstice
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