Posted by SLS on May 13, 2008, at 15:30:21
In reply to Babble NOT safe to me-GENERAL post, posted by muffled on May 13, 2008, at 11:09:04
> > > in re-opening the debate over whether to remove posts that are considered harmful because this is a mental health site?
> > > Such as the one above by medjuggler?
> > > Wasting my time...
> > > Crap.
> > > M
> > I think it is dangerous for the administration to take on the role of selecting which posts to allow and which to not allow. I think there is already enough editing of posts demanded by administration. It might be the mission statement of PB to allow for free speech, but to be able to admonish a poster or block their posting based on their behavior.
> * I am weak.How so?
> > There are certain posts that I wish had not appeared on the boards, but it has always been within my power to select which post to read and which to avoid. Even if there is no hint in the subject line as to profane or "uncivil" language, I usually stop reading at the point I come across such verbiage.
> *sometimes there is no warning.Correct.
> And theres the thing where a person can't tear themselves away. Its very common.
Perhaps, but you don't need to be common. You are far from being that anyway. :-)
There is a bit of a learning-curve involved in how to avoid hurt and distress here. It takes a committment to avoid that which is unhealthy for you. It takes practice. If you are weak, then get strong. Do not let the words of another which you consider profane or offensive gain significance by reading them and letting them affect you.
> Or sometimes in my case, I use it as a form of self punishment
In what way? Why do you feel justified in punishing yourself?
There are so many things in life that we have little control over. However, here you have power. Select those words which enhance your life and avoid or repudiate those which detract from it. I think it is incumbant upon you to gain control of your own behavior before attempting to influence the behavior of others.
Be the best Muffled that you can be. You are perfect - weak or strong.
Of course, "weak" and "strong" are words that must be defined, and are relative rather than absolute. What one considers to be weak might be strong in the eyes of another. I see strength.
- Scott
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