Posted by 10derHeart on February 28, 2008, at 13:33:04
In reply to Re: pulling posts » Dr. Bob, posted by fayeroe on February 28, 2008, at 12:06:46
> > I haven't been posting to those who may feel hurt when I block someone. Maybe I should. My hope is that they see the block as validating, and that other posters support them directly.
> > Bob> I am very concerned that you can "hope that a banned memeber can see the block as validating."
I think there is a misunderstanding about who (whom?-I never know) Dr. Bob was talking about. The way I read the thread, muffled was asking about not deleting certain kinds of posts (that have led to a block) - the kind in the FAQ called "particularly inappropriate," so that posters hurt by those posts wouldn't have to continue to see them on the boards.
When he answered, I understood him to be talking about the "victim" who was likely hurt by the words in the post (as the uncivil words were directed at them personally), and that he hopes issuing the block will be seen as validating by *that* person, not the "blockee." And that he hopes other posters support the "victim" of any hurtful words in the uncivil post(s), but maybe he ought to consider saying something to them himself.
At least that's the way I read it. I don't think anyone asked, or that he addressed, actions, emails, etc. toward the person who has been blocked - not in this thread, anyway.
Which of course, doesn't make any of your comments or questions invalid or unimportant in any way. I just thought maybe it would clear up confusion to see which posters Dr. Bob was actually referring to in his post above.
Actually, I thought they were thought-provoking questions, and that others here would also like to hear Dr. Bob's answers to them.
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