Posted by Dinah on February 25, 2008, at 17:26:41
In reply to Re: meeting w/Dr. Bob, posted by muffled on February 25, 2008, at 14:11:50
It seems like most of the posts on this board are complaining that it takes deputy too little time to ruin good discussions by giving pbc's. Not that it takes us too long.
It wouldn't do any good at all for us to discuss removing posts with Dr. Bob. It just isn't his practice, except in one circumstance as far as I know. Posting while blocked.
I still think that posters working together to make sure that a post speedily finds its way into the archives is the only real way to get it done. It hasn't been done lately, but we used to do it. It was part of a spirit of camaraderie. Of living by the rules, but finding a way to minimize hurt to a friend anyway. And without being uncivil.
There were more posters then. Maybe it would be harder to do now without breaking the three post rule.
But I did like the feeling of working together...
While I understand the idea behind deputies and off board notifications, I think it also led people to give up on helping each other, in completely acceptable and civil ways.
When we suspect someone might be feeling hurt, do we start threads to tell that person how much we care about them? If someone is the topic of an uncivil post, it's great if people don't respond uncivilly. But wouldn't it be even greater if people came out in droves to post civilly in support of the poster? "XXX, I don't at all think you're yyyy. I really admire you for zzzz." I know people do it, but not as much as it used to be I think. Maybe everyone's afraid to say something wrong. I don't know.
It seems to me to be even more to the point than saying something uncivil to the poster who makes what seem to be uncivil remarks. Isn't the point to say that not everyone thinks of you that way? Way more people think of you in a completely different way? That you're wonderful and loved and an asset to Babble?
Maybe in giving posters the message that they should contact Administration and wait for a response, we haven't emphasized that it's still ok to be supportive. That being supportive is still up to fellow posters really. And that being supportive to one poster doesn't have to be done by being uncivil to another.
I dunno. Maybe Admin really is every bit as bad as everyone thinks we are. I hate to think that, because I only agreed to do this to be helpful and do good for the community. Not to hold it down or destroy it.
poster:Dinah
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