Posted by muffled on September 25, 2006, at 12:08:19
In reply to Re: Dissenting viewpoint, posted by Dr. Bob on September 24, 2006, at 21:43:40
Thanks for trying to make things better here. I understand that people can feel rejected when they're blocked, and that that can add to other rejections in the present or the past.
***for me, the blocks came early on, before I truly understood the 'rules'. For me the blocks were shocking and shameful, and unexpected, and all the more hurtful for that. I carry scars from my blocks, internally and externally. Some of my blocks I think were uneccessary. However, I think things have improved in that way. More warnings and less outright blocks....
I do think it can be important to try to control how one reacts -- or doesn't. No one's ever been blocked for not reacting, and not reacting may also help keep one from slipping into roles, lead to growth, and make outside intervention unnecessary.
***Yes, I proly have learned from my blocks....
My children would learn to be more careful too if I punched them when they did wrong...
However, again I say, I think things have improved in that way.If people are interested in alternative ways of expressing themselves, they're welcome to discuss that here, either after they're blocked or, ideally, before. They can also ask other posters to preview their posts before they submit them.
***I feel stupid doing that, but thats just me. I hate asking for stuff..
Blocks don't make it completely safe here, but IMO they do have some effect, that's not just an illusion. I could be better at validating feelings, but the wish for love and acceptance can also be part of a deep-seated "parent-child attitude".
***Blocks are a part of the danger here....
I once bypassed the word f*rt...I didn't think it would matter, its not a bad word.....
Still hurts....
:-(
So that being said, I think this site has a lot of challenges but I also think its getting better.
So thanks to all for your work.
Muffled
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