Posted by jlynne on September 22, 2006, at 23:57:38
In reply to Dissenting viewpoint » jlynne, posted by Racer on September 22, 2006, at 21:00:52
Racer, thank you for responding to my post; I appreciate your input. Although we disagree, it is good that we can discuss this topic; it helps me to understand where you are coming from and why you feel the way you do. I would like to address two of the comments you made in your reply:
>>I don't see blocks as being analogous to exile, so much as analogous to a time-out period for a young child.
IMO the “parent-child” attitude may be one of the main issues I have here. If we continue viewing this site from the “parent-child” position, we may be promoting others to posture themselves accordingly. The parent-child relationship has deep-seated emotional power – notice how many of us revert when dealing with our parents. I, personally, am struggling daily to let go of my “parent-child” view of the world. When I am in “parent-child” mode, I tend to enter into power struggles with whomever I am trying to relate. The time-out concept is no longer accepted as widely as it once was; it is being replaced with the concept of acknowledging/validating feelings and suggesting more appropriate means of expressing those feelings.My goal is to grow and learn how to not play roles; to take people as they are and to accept their differences. I think it would be healthier for us to learn how to cope with our own emotions, rather than to rely on a “parent” to intervene for us.
>>I'd rather protect some of the more vulnerable here by blocking those whose behavior may trigger them.
Who is to say who is “more vulnerable”?? Weren’t the people who were blocked also responding to some sort of triggers? Are some people’s triggers more important than others’?
Again, thank you for responding:)
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