Posted by Larry Hoover on June 20, 2006, at 1:32:27
In reply to Re: DNP's and notification, posted by Larry Hoover on June 19, 2006, at 9:37:12
DNP's are bad rules because:
1. A person can rescind one, and restore it, in a single post. What is this, a permanent monologue? That should not be allowed, period.
2. DNPs encourage grudges. How does it help anybody to have old grudges come out of the dark of failing memory, only to be activated on somebody else's whim? What is that? Vengence?
3. DNPs encourage externalization of emotional response. Whatever your feeling, it is internal. Blaming another person for your own feelings is a guaranteed way to build problems in relationships, not repair them.
4. It reduces personal responsibility. If I don't like The Simpsons, I watch a different channel. I don't try and make The Simpsons stop broadcasting. If someone's style doesn't suit you, don't read their posts.
5. DNPs should have very brief expiry. No more than 48 hours, IMHO. And, a person throwing DNPs around should have some limits placed on that. Some reasonable limits.
6. The FAQ still does not reflect the functional form of the DNP rule. That is well over one year after I first brought that up. This is now at least the fourth time I've brought it up in 2006.
7. DNPs should entirely limit any references to the parties involved, either second or third party references. It is not fair to be able to talk about someone, if you aren't allowing them to enter the conversation. Any reference, any reference of any kind, should be a rescinding of the DNP.
8. Get rid of the harassment issue entirely, if you're not going to follow it, Bob. I got blocked when I was the target of harassment.
9. Allow simple acknowledgements of the DNP, to ensure that it is even known about. Recipient should say "Okay", or "Sorry" or something, or it should not even be in effect.
10. Create a master list somewhere. Nobody reads all boards.It's a bad rule, inside outside downside. Bad rule.
It stifles communication, when the simple act of acknowledging a problem is often all it takes to move on.
It punishes the wrong person, as often as not.
It punishes both persons, as often as not.
It puts punishment in the hands of Babblers, unique among all other rules. It needn't even be justified. Anybody can just throw one around. Watch.
Do no post to me, gardenergirl.
It should be very sparingly applied, but to do that would require true site monitoring, rather than the haphazard and intermittent monitoring still in effect.
You wonder why I get frustrated? Really?
Lar
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