Posted by corafree on June 7, 2006, at 20:41:20
In reply to Re: Implementation of trigger flags » corafree, posted by gardenergirl on June 6, 2006, at 16:00:08
Thanks for explanation re: discussing a situation v. painting a picture of it. I understand.
No ... I'm not upset, not for myself, because Larry's reaction and posts by him and others actually 'shook me out of my numbness' and that was GOOD for me, I think.(?)
But, I am upset that it was at others' expense, and THAT'S NOT FAIR.
If only I had a therapist that effective!
It made me see the validity of my pain. I do not have a validating support system.
So, 'violence in general' would then be flagged?
I don't think that is something we can do now. I'm looking at my keyboard and thinking, 'can I make a flag icon'?
I was wondering if there would be any way to be a TRIGGER 'specific'? (There are different forms of violence.) Does anyone think that would be valuable? Probably not.
Do we avoid? Should we? This feels similar to DBT. I am not sure that I wouldn't actually be 'drawn to posts if they were flagged'. Having been in violent situations too long ... maybe 'it's there that I'm comfortable'. That is sick.
Really, ... I am hitting this head-on now for the first time. When I saw TRIGGER typed four times it really took me aback. I realized at that moment ... I haven't ever allowed myself to experience the pain that I was talking about. Suddenly I saw it and felt it, and I think that's progress. I've been avoiding my feelings a long time.
Where do I we draw the line?
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