Posted by zazenduck on June 6, 2006, at 8:58:27
In reply to Re: Civility guidelines apply to DR BOB » zazenduck, posted by Dinah on June 5, 2006, at 20:05:54
I did not mean to imply in any way that you were lacking in moral courage. I withdraw my comment. I am acquiring civility scrupulosity on this board.
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> I don't ever recall myself lacking in moral courage enough not to say what I think to Dr. Bob. If I remember correctly, one of my first interactions with Dr. Bob involved threatening to have my mother give him a good talking to.Were you serious?
> And him replying that that was fine, just to have her please register under her own posting name.
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> I like Dr. Bob as well. I think I liked him since he made that very polite response to my impassioned post.It's interesting that you interpreted it that way :) I think I would have felt like he missed the point if he failed to respond to what I was impassioned about and responded literally to the threat to have my mom talk to him. I think Estella was right that Bob's style does encourage transference. I scrupulously note that I do not mean anything remotely negative by that observation
I think I saw him originally as an idealist trying to form a community which let people meet on common ground and discuss things which had been the domain of doctors. That was back in the days before registration. The only rule was please be civil. And when someone was blocked-SURPRISE-it wasn't me :) there wasn't even a number a days the person just emailed Bob when he was ready to return. I thought Bob was a true humanitarian and a champion of people who hadn't had a voice-people labelled mentally ill. And of course that was transference too I suppose. I always felt very protective of him because he seemed a little naive to me in those days. *rolling my eyes at myself*
And so my criticism of him is in part because I feel like he strayed so far from his own ideals which of course were not his but my own which I guess I projected onto him........or maybe not.
But then by the time you realize that you misinterpeted this place it's too late to leave because so many wonderful things can happen here
like finding Henrietta and Ludvig Wittgenstein
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> And I'm also sad when people feel hurt. I've always suspected that Dr. Bob is as well.I try not to have suspicions about Dr Bob I really really try :) Where did he go and why did he leave that very strange picture before he went.
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