Posted by fallsfall on June 12, 2005, at 19:33:59
In reply to Lou's response to aspects of this thread-lgtofrson, posted by Lou Pilder on June 12, 2005, at 14:36:59
Hi Lou,
I know that I have a lot of confusion, myself, about what is "civil" and what is "uncivil". So far, I have managed to remain civil in my posts here on Babble (at least I haven't gotten a PBC). So I guess, that in some sense, I do understand the difference. There have been some times when I have wanted to say certain things, and I haven't said them because I thought they would be uncivil. But if you asked me to define what makes a post civil or uncivil, I really don't know. I am frequently surprised by Dr. Bob's rulings. I know that I could never be a deputy at Babble because I *know* that I don't have a clear enough idea about civility.
I am also a person who is mortified if I am wrong, or "bad". I go to great lengths to make sure that I follow all of the laws and rules, and I want everyone else to follow the rules, too. My daughter, when she was 4, was telling her Nursery School friends not to run in the hall, and I could tell that she got that from me. My therapist is trying to get me to see that I can break a rule or law and not be a "bad" person as a result. I'm trying to grasp the idea that I can make a mistake and go on, but it is hard for me to do that.
When I read your posts requesting that Dr. Bob review a post, I wonder if you don't feel the same kinds of things that I do. I could see myself writing those posts because I might want to post on Babble, but not understanding the rules, I might be afraid to do so. Is your purpose in posting these questions to figure out what the rules are? So that you will know if you are going to break them? Are you taking examples of things that confuse you and asking for rulings so that you will be able to understand what the rules are?
I'm trying to understand what you are trying to accomplish by asking the questions that you do. Of course, you may be nothing like me and your motivations may be very different from what I describe. If that is the case, I am interested in understanding what *your* goal is.
Falls.
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