Posted by messadivoce on April 14, 2005, at 15:31:27
In reply to Minnie's request to fellow board members (long), posted by Minnie-Haha on April 14, 2005, at 14:37:56
One of the aspects that I find unique and special about this board is that people here, for the most part, are able to co-exist despite huge differences in opinion, background, religion, values, morals, ethics, personality, race, sexual-orientation, I could go on and on.
But with such diversity, there are bound to be problems, annoyances, eye-rolling, misunderstandings, and the like. But I think that it's really cool that no one is able to "block" or "ignore" another poster, and there are blessed few "please do not post to me" requests.
At the end of the day, this is Dr. Bob's site. I am not suggesting that he is infallible, just that this site belongs to him and he has the right to determine what is "civil" (and his definition probably differs from other people's definitions but it's HIS SITE). So, if a poster is not bothering him, then I try to take the attitude that it doesn't bother me. And I develop a thicker skin, find the humor, don't read people's posts, or try to see it from their standpoint, even if I am in total disagreement.
Of course it can be "argued" that Lou's posts are disruptive. (I'm not going to pretend that this thread isn't targeted at a particular poster.) But it can also be argued that Lou is a sincere person who is exercising the right to express himself. Not knowing Lou personally, I can't form an opinion. I do know how I *feel* but I don't know how Lou feels.
Granted, I have never had one of my posts scrutinized by Lou, but I can imagine it must be frustrating. But just like in real life, people may not always live up to our definition of sensitivity, and so it's neccessary to grant people leway and grace when they don't respond how you would like (I'm a big advocate of personal responsibility, can you tell?).
The longer I'm alive (and I'm only 22) I'm realizing that people are going to get under my skin for the rest of my life. It doesn't matter if I'm in therapy, or taking meds. People IRL don't discriminate on the basis of that, so I have to learn to live with people who don't approach life the same way, as annoying as I may find this.
In regards to "big brother", well, I must tell you that even if Lou were not here, Dr. Bob reads almost every post. So regardless of Lou, Big Brother is watching. As well he should. It's his site. The only difference is that we are less aware because he gives less input. And no offense, but you counting Lou's threads on Admin could be construed as you acting as "Big Brother" to him personally.
As to his abbreviations, I do find them interesting, but they don't cause me "stress" although others may disagree. Although I am interested in the system he has for these, and if he wouldn't mind sharing, I'd be interested in knowing.
To summarize the world as I see it:
1. I'm responsible for my own feelings, actions and reply posts.
2. It's Dr. Bob's site. If he's okay with a thread then I'm okay with it. Call me a suck up. Call me a pacifist. Whatever. That is how the site works.
poster:messadivoce
thread:484197
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20050323/msgs/484233.html