Posted by karen_kay on August 9, 2004, at 5:51:02
someone reminds me of my mother. i recognize, of course, that this person reminds me of my mother. (geez, i hope that i'm not doing the old 'finger pointing' as i hate to sound that way. forgive me if i do come across that way, as i honestly don't mean to and really would never hope to sound that way)
anyway, for some reason, i'm able to recognize similar traits that remind me of previous conflicts, but only in one particular poster (btw, i do recognize these traits everyday, and in real life, such as in my sister and so forth, but it never bothers me to the extent that it does here on the board). i think i do a great job controlling it, but i also notice i'm very obviously cold in my own way towards this particular poster. is this something you can help me with (or should i talk to a therapist? :)
in other words, is it better to just keep my mouth shut and feel bad for being cold, like i feel i am, but not run the risk of blowing up, like i could very well run the risk of doing (by thinking in my own head 'hey, this could be your mother, go ahead, let her have it...')
OR....
play nice, but if i get hurt, unleash vengence like i would as if this person was my mother (which would be bound to happen) and that would be bad...wowsa!
should i even be asking you this? hmmmm....
thank you dear, (even if you say 'what in the world are you talking about?')
kk
poster:karen_kay
thread:375526
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20040717/msgs/375526.html