Posted by AuntieMel on June 18, 2004, at 12:15:02
In reply to re: thoughts (completely too long), posted by lil' jimi on June 18, 2004, at 2:29:17
Very well written. It is interesting that you can see logic in your own block when that logic escaped many of us.
I think this exercise has pointed me in a different direction. As argument became synonomous with tilting against windmills, I have decided, not without great difficulty, to use it as a life lesson, and can now use babble as a way to experiment on some things for myself.
How often have we heard that the trick to sucessful arguing is to put things in terms of your own feelings? That combativeness will cause the other party to become defensive? That this defensiveness defeats our purpose of making a point? With force civility rules, we have a good chance to practice these skills before foisting them on friends and family.
So, to put a positive spin on it:
The brutal truth (about people) is nearly always uncivil.
>> but the simple truth doesn't need to be
The truth is like any other powerful tool: it can be used as a weapon
>> but it doesn't have to be.Welcome back - you are a shining star on a foggy night.
Mel
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