Posted by Larry Hoover on November 25, 2003, at 9:45:14
In reply to Re: parasuicidal threats and false reporting » Larry Hoover, posted by ramsea on November 25, 2003, at 8:30:30
> Is this a question for everyone or just between you two?
I was *so* hoping that more people would express themselves. Thank you.
> If it's meant to be more private, sorry for interrupting.
Not in the least. I hope you don't mind my editing your post to focus more closely on certain ideas.
> Now, as a person who has know BPD diagnosed persons very well, I can agree Larry that it is VERY hard on the family/friend. It tries loved ones patientce and tolerance very deeply.
Absolutely.
> Like any other severe illness (and my mind believes they are ill, not bad),
Ill, not malevolent. I have to assume that, even if I am wrong.
> Especially if the implication is that there is something fakey about the person and rather wickedly manipulative.
That's not what I meant by anything I said. It is a particular behaviour (the topic of this thread) that is excessively hurtful, though.
What I question is, how appropriate is it to seek "substantial" levels of support here, in these forums? Let me expand.
The need for support is not questioned (I hope). The behaviour is not malevolent (I hope).
The behaviour can be massively disruptive to other vulnerable people (we *are* a selected population). That is not in question (I hope).
Any support available here is probably inadequate, or at least, not substantial (my inference).It's a practise here to redirect on a topical basis.
It's a practise here to consider the impact of any posting on even hypothetical readers thereof.
It is a practise here to prevent posting by posters who ignore the feelings of others, *even if unintentional*.
Why would it not be a practise to redirect certain forms of posting to community-based supports? Is that feasible?
It is a practise on other similar boards to delete any such posts, and to report them to relevant authorities if the identity of the poster can be traced.
The deletion is to prevent any sense of rewarding the poster, and to minimize the the impact of the posting itself. The reporting is to provide the maximum level of community-based support that might be available. What more could anyone do, anyway?
Lar
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