Posted by shar on July 5, 2003, at 12:45:50
In reply to Re: To WhiteRabbit, posted by Dinah on July 5, 2003, at 0:07:05
Dinah,
you apparently know Brio. You have information I don't have. You may or may not be in communication with Brio or whomever Brio is. I have a feeling Brio was a poster with a different name at one time.Not being "in" on what was really going on, I have to make decisions based on what I see. I didn't see any humor. I saw--on this board and others--a lot of little slams to a lot of people who were in varying degrees of pain.
In my opinion, Brio was un-pollyannaesque to a significant degree. Brio was hurting others. Brio may have been in pain, but that was not what Brio was talking about--if he or she had talked about that, he or she might have gotten support (what a concept!).
Instead, the best way I can figure it, Brio was acting out his or her pain, and when it comes to people acting out on me (the 'sure shar'post) I have no sympathy for them. Especially when I've seen the previous acting out and hurtful things, and especially when someone sees fit to take things in my private life (granted, mentioned on the board) and ridicule them AND point fingers at me about how I'm handling my life. Sorry, out of sympathy at that point, plus never had anything to be sympathetic about at all since Brio never saw fit to share what was going on with him or her. And, I was not privy to whatever additional information you happen to have.
>When I read that, I winced, because I was pretty sure that it was based on a misinterpretation of Brio's motives.
I will point out here that I could not really have misinterpreted Brio's motives since I did not know what he or she was going through, who he or she is or was, why he or she was doing that, nor did I have any information to lead me to believe they were anything other than what was written. It is not possible, in general, to read somebody's mind and discern their motives based on a post or posts.
Perhaps that will explain to you how I happened to "misinterpret" Brio's actions.
I'm about done with the Babbles. It's been a great support, and given me opportunities to support other wonderful people, but this is riduculous.
Shar
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> I have seen this entire thing unfold like a train wreck I couldn't stop. I am aching from the hurt on all sides. I could see that Shar interpreted Brio's post to Dr. Bob differently than I did. Based on the context of other posts on Admin from Brio, I saw that post as a semi-humorous attempt to be blocked. I could see that Shar interpreted it differently, and from her interpretation said that it would be for the good of all the board if Brio was blocked. and I also knew I would be pretty hurt if I read that about myself. Sure enough, it would appear that Brio was hurt, and from that hurt said things that hurt Shar. And I was so sad to see Shar hurt. And so on and so on.
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> It's all dreadfully unfortunate, but Brio is not a "monkey person" or a bad source. Brio is just a hurting poster.
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> I wish there was something I could have done to derail the process along the way. And I wish there was something I could do to fix it now. It hurts me to see two posters I like both hurting.
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> I have this nasty desire to fix things that I just can't fix.
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