Re: a Citizen's PBC » stjames

Posted by Zo on June 23, 2003, at 18:40:04

In reply to Re: a Citizen's PBC, posted by stjames on June 22, 2003, at 16:15:20

> Hmmmm, It would of been more effective to just say something like "James, could you leave this one alone, you are driving others crazy? " I think that was the msg you intended but it was lost when you used the word "uncivil".
That wasn't my meaning.
A more civil subject line might be "so many suicidal posts bother me."
Bob recommends "I" statements. If you stick to how you feel - and "fed up" is not a feeling - no one else can feel accused or put down or hurt. Sure, one gets fed up with suicidal posts, it's draining. But it's possible to word things so that you get your feelings / reactions across without seeming to judge or put down or reject others.
If someone posts they could pull out a list, James, what they are giving you is support that this is something you do a lot and you might want to take a look at that - and I think that post was worded pretty tactfully.
I'm not quite sure you're hearing others, or being heard in the way you would wish.
Just offering some support,
Zo

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I am fed up with little sphinx'es veiled threats stjames 6/19/03
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Re: Expressing Feelings--good/Suicide threats--bad » OddipusRex Dinah 6/20/03
Re: a Citizen's PBC » stjames zenhussy 6/20/03
Hey! Me, too! » Dinah shar 6/20/03
Re: Hey! Me, too! » shar Zo 6/21/03
Re: Hey! Me, too! » shar Dinah 6/21/03
Re: Oops. I'm very sorry Slinky. » slinky Ron Hill 6/21/03
Re: a Citizen's PBC » stjames Ron Hill 6/21/03
Re: It's ok Ron~I forgive you :-) (nm) » Ron Hill slinky 6/21/03
Re: Thank you. :-) (nm) » slinky Ron Hill 6/21/03
Re: a Citizen's PBC stjames 6/22/03
Re: a Citizen's PBC stjames 6/22/03
Re: I am fed up Dr. Bob 6/23/03
Re: a Citizen's PBC » stjames Zo 6/23/03

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