Posted by wendy b. on June 23, 2003, at 8:10:10
In reply to Re: please be civil » wendy b. » zenhussy, posted by Dr. Bob on June 23, 2003, at 4:40:06
Sorry, Bob, but I can't help but feel put down and maligned by that post. I know Dinah feels she would never ever do that, but if you read the entire exchange again, including the one on Admin over this topic, you might see that I was not uncivil in attributing these intentions to Dinah.
And it doesn't matter if she says she wouldn't do such a thing. She did do it. And then retracted a whole line of thought over anonymous posters, after hurting some genuine feelings.
It's not just a matter of "You read it one way, I read it another." Sometimes things are either calculated to assuage pain, or they are calculated to cause more.
As for Zenhussy's post, I'm sure she will say more, but I don't see anything more accusatory in Zenhussy's than in Dinah's:
("To speak of private matters in a public setting, in such a way that deliberately excludes others, that I would not do. To be proud of it.... That I do not even understand.")I'm sorry you felt that I expressed something inappropriate, and the intention was only to explain how it felt to me. I hope you did see my "I" statements... (Block if you must, it's probably time to bow out for a while, anyway.)
My apologies to you, Bob. It's a difficult job.
Wendy
______________> > > To speak of private matters in a public setting, in such a way that deliberately excludes others, that I would not do. To be proud of it.... That I do not even understand.
> >
> > this seems calculated to make SOMEBODY feel badly
> >
> > Wendy
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> Please don't jump to conclusions about others.
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> > I am baffled by the open arms and slobbery kisses offered up to some and the cold suspicious shoulder shown to others.
> >
> > There are many people here who have shown extreme kindness and empathy to almost anyone who comes to this space and to see those very same people shun a suicidal gal breaks my heart.
> >
> > zh
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> Or post anything that could lead others to feel accused.
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> Bob
>
> PS: Follow-ups regarding posting policies, and complaints about posts, should be redirected to Psycho-Babble Administration, thanks.
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