Re: those who have been neglected » Dr. Bob

Posted by DinahM on April 21, 2002, at 16:12:50

In reply to Re: when i started posting, posted by Dr. Bob on April 21, 2002, at 13:35:40

> > I don't want to leave here (the info I've learned and people have been wonderful) ... I just hope I can get past some of these feelings. They're very raw right now.
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> > Janelle
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> I appreciate that.
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> I do want to see if this can work and want continued input, so my intention is *not* to deflect criticism, but I do also wonder, maybe this is harder for people who've been neglected in the past?
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> Bob
I daresay that's true Dr. Bob. Those of us who weren't in the popular cliques in junior high or high school, and those of us who have a history of being excluded probably do feel worse at being excluded now. And you're asking because you think that makes the objections of those who have personal experience with the effects of exclusion less valuable? Or perhaps just less objective? And are less objective opinions on an issue of emotional rather than logical content less valuable or should they be given less weight?
I'm actually not aware of feeling personally hurt by the new board; I guess it's possible that I am hurt without being aware of it. I don't remember being hurt by cliques in my youth either. I always figured it was OK for people who liked each other and had a lot in common to hang out together. I remember being hurt by those who went out of their ways to pick on me, but I was sort of live and let live as to cliques.
But I'll admit to being annoyed at the institutional endorsement of this group, and more importantly the seeming dismissal of the hurt feelings of those who are hurt by the idea. I don't see that splitting the group into those who can or can't post on a certain board is good for the whole. I wholeheartedly endorse the opinion stated far more clearly by Susan G.
And while I see my objection as being based in principle not in personal feelings, I will keep your question in mind. Although perhaps you could clarify why you asked it, along the lines of my first paragraph.

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In a word - Janelle Bekka H. 4/21/02
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Re: My 2 cents » Anyuser Lini 4/28/02

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