Posted by FluffMama on November 29, 2010, at 0:13:26
In reply to Suffering, posted by rjlockhart04-08 on November 23, 2010, at 22:29:19
Hi M, my name is Missy and I'm sorry you are suffering right now. You mention a lot of times about the Devil and hellfire. Sometimes when we are depressed it can be easy to fixate on religious themes, but it usually is just scary and condemning. Is there a way you can stop allowing your thoughts to dwell on dark things like that? When you think thoughts like that, your body responds with stress hormones, and makes you feel worse.
Most depression is caused by feeling TRAPPED and HOPELESS. Are you really trapped at home? Is there a way you could move out? What is a practical step you could take to improve your life? Just a small step. Like going to Starbucks for a drink. Sometimes that's all it takes to make me feel a little better.
I'm worried about ya because I lost my little brother to depression this summer and I know he thought many negative thoughts about his life and yet if he had just hung in there, life very well could have surprised him. All it takes sometimes is ONE move forward toward the life you really want. I guess I don't know your situation.
A powerful thing I do when I am suffering very negative thoughts (like I was today) is to do the exact opposite of what I was doing when thinking them. Like for me, getting out of bed and walking to Burgerville! I didn't feel like doing it and I had to force myself, but somehow being outside and seeing other people and breathing the fresh air helped me.
But the most important thing I do is to be kind to myself. You are being mean to your poor self! You don't deserve to suffer - say good things to yourself. Like, "Things are going to get better because I am open to positive change." Or ask the universe to provide a change for you.
Just a few thoughts - I hope you don't mind.
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