Posted by lymom3 on October 24, 2006, at 22:38:29
In reply to Re: i am double slammed, posted by Rjlockhart on October 24, 2006, at 19:27:34
You sound so frantic every time you post. Are you always that way or is it just school that makes you react in that way? If you can hold it together and function better when you are outside of school then can you take a step back and figure out why you are that way with school?
If you are more rational and calm in other areas of your life but school makes you act this way, then I could totally understand your mother saying that she'd rather have you out of school. Dexedrine is bad about keeping you up at night; why don't you go with another stimulant that isn't that harsh and would still allow you to sleep?
Have you ever pursued something to do more from a mood stabilizing standpoint? Something to keep your thoughts from racing and bouncing all over the place? Topamax and Lamictal have helped my focus and methodically get my work done and be level headed about it far more than any stimulant has done. I think if you were more level headed without your emotions all over the place you might really be surprised what you can get done.
Also, you have to focus on what you CAN do. You stress so bad about how everything you do in school will be horrible or not get done if you aren't medicated. Try doing a little at time. Do what you can do and be proud of yourself for that. If you can't get everything done, then you are taking on too much right now. Causing yourself to have an emotional collapse over school is not going to help you in your life.
You so badly want to do school, do it well and do it fast. Maybe you can't. Maybe you need to be kinder to yourself or more realistic about what you are capable of doing RIGHT NOW; at this very moment. Moms can drive you nuts I know...I am one.
My 18 year old who is ADHD in the worst kind of way wishes at times that I would lighten up on him. Sometimes mother does know best even if we don't communicate it to our kids very well. Sometimes we can be just flat out wrong and totally off base too. I suspect your mom is somewhere in the middle.
Just remember, you can always finish school but it's going to be harder to fix your mind and your emotional well being. Remember try to focus on what you can do and let go of what you can't get done. All you can do is the best that you can. Not what you think you ought to be able to do; not what you wish you could do but what you can actually accomplish. Be proud of yourself.
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