Posted by yellowbrickroad on January 3, 2005, at 15:23:45
In reply to Re: Stigma PS » banga, posted by hotagent339 on January 3, 2005, at 14:02:36
That's a lot to deal with. I can certainly feel the stress coming through the screen. I'm sorry that your in-laws are so controlling. I certainly wouldn't appreciate such manipulations. I imagine that it must feel especially tough because they have some outwardly visible signs of success, and they sound like they are very willing to use these in a power struggle.
Forgive me if this is too personal of a remark, but I really think your husband ought to play for "Team Molly", as he is your life partner now, and not theirs. If he doesn't want to fight them, he doesn't have to. But he can certainly make the rule that "I don't go anywhere my wife is not welcome, and neither will our child." Maybe Mike's grandma can pay a visit to your home while she's in town (if you do, in fact, live in the same town as his parents).
I hope you have some friends who are supportive, so that you don't feel like it's you against the whole world. Also, it's good to have people to remind you that you, too, are very successful in life.
A grown woman should have to put her tail between her legs for anyone, not even rich in-laws. If you know that you're successful, you're a good wife to their son, and you're a good mother to their grandchild, then why shouldn't you hold your head up high? You have nothing to be ashamed of.
I wish you strength.
YBR
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