Posted by LynneDa on December 6, 2004, at 10:08:29
In reply to soo happy to find some info, posted by perkidoom on December 6, 2004, at 9:39:16
Hi! Your story is exactly like mine! Mine has been going on for about 5 years; I'm 41 now and had my daughter when I was 33. I have the worthless, sucicidal thoughts, jealous rages that are totally irrational, crying jags, angry about everything and anything to downright depression.
You can get better!!!! Don't give up hope! I know exactly how awful you feel and how not normal it is for you to have these personality changes. It is good that you know it's based on your cycle.
If one anti-depressant doesn't work, try another. Change dosages before giving up on one. Hopefully your psychiatrist will have some ideas.
There are lots of natural, common sense things you can do too, of course: exercise, eat right, take vitamins/supplements, lower your caffeine intake, take herbs (alternative board), massage therapy, acupuncture, etc. Believe me, I've tried them all. But, I haven't really stuck to anything :-(.
I'm on 300 mg Wellbutrin SR and 5 mg Lexapro. That seems to work fairly well. I would say I am down to only 2 bad times per month: ovulation and about a week before my period; each lasting about 2 days or so. (I am on the pill and I don't know if it helps or hurts.)
My therapist is 41 and had a hysterectomy. It did work wonders, but obviously it's not an option for you right now.
I would also suggest that your husband go to a counselor either with you or without you so he can understand this crazy stuff we women have to go through! I am newly married as well (2 years, 2nd marriage). My husband doesn't completely get it, thinks that we should be able to control our emotions, etc. But, the counseling and some reading he did helped to legitimize it.
Another piece of advice I can give you. When you are feeling crazy, try another outlet besides your husband, if you can. Call a friend or sister or counselor and just ramble. Or write to us here. I was, and still am, terrible in that I unload all my irrational feelings and fears on him.
When you're feeling bad most of the month, I know it is hard to help yourself get better and do positive things. But, you will get better and as your hormones and chemicals get straightened out with meds, you can take steps to do some of the other self-help things. It's a gradual process, but you will get better!!!
Let us know how you're doing. We care!!
~ Lynne
>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>I believe I am pmdd. Im 33 and have been to doctors who thought maybe depression maybe manic depression. I dont totaly fit in that catagory because It revolves around my cycle. Iam so scared I am newley married and driving my husband away to the point of him just wanting out at times "during those attrociouse weeks". I seem to have 0ne week a month where every day is stable but the rest of the weeks I am so crazy.
> I do crazy things like run away for the afternoon swearing never to come back, to thoughts of sucide I make terrable acusations to my husband, have jelouse rage and sever mood swings. All of witch totally close my husband off to me and I end up totally exahuasted from the whole or deal. "thinking what was all that about>" Its like for 1 to 1 1/2 weeks a month Im loving and happy like a sunny spring day then for the rest I am an evil storm of unstability. I am seeking some psciatric advise tommorrow. I really want so bad to have a normal life and live in love and harmony with my husband. I want us to be happy and have a child, however he doesnt want to have a child with me when Im unstable. so I get even more insecure about the outcome of all this. Have tried anti depressants dont really help at all was on hormones they just messed up my cycle. My gyno said in sever cases like mine she has performed hystorectomies with success. But they had children all ready. So I cant have a child if I dont get stable but if I want to be stable I might need to end my periods so either way child birth is not looking bright for me. It makes me even more depressed and crazy during my bad weeks. I think my husband is so to the end of his rope with me and I am really trying to seek help. I dont really know what my question is but any POSITIVE feed back would be so great for me and my husband. Thanks for listening
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