Posted by zinya on September 11, 2003, at 15:24:31
In reply to Message for Angelina, posted by Music on September 11, 2003, at 13:21:51
Hi Music,
i've been offline for a couple of weeks and just back in posting my update earlier here, and i've read several of your recent exchanges with Angelina... Forgive me for possibly 'barging in' but hearing your angst and understanding at least some of what it seems you're going through... I thought i'd offer the one thing in particular that came to mind as i read an earlier post of yours...
I'm sensing that a core problem might be feeling a sense of no control over your life, given your circumstances... And this can often lead to 'dark thoughts' when people sense at the end of their options to find ways of some sort of control over some -- at least one -- gratifying aspect of their lives. I think every human needs that and its lack is sooner or later depression-inducing if not devastating.
Without wishing to sound simplistic by any means, I would encourage you to think about -- despite the things you can't control like the frequent moves and the need to work to support your family, to think either back or forward to something that brings you satisfaction or pleasure that you could reintroduce into your life as much for a sense of 'control' over some aspect of your daily life that would be a beginning place. I thought Angelina's suggestions were good but also thought they might seem like "too much" to imagine tackling yet, and even something seemingly 'small' and very realistic could be a key step...
wishing you well and sending compassionate hugs to you, Music,
zinya
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